【 RELATiONSHiPS HAVE STAGES ♥ 】

【 STAGE 1 (1-3 Months): The Honeymoon Stage 】
Everything seems perfect, both are happy and feeling “in love.” You share moments, dates and just having fun with each other, sharing laughs and giggles. It’s like nothing could stop you. Your feelings are infinite, and for once you’re thinking, “This may work out….” and it seems like nothing could go wrong. You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person.
*If your relationship ended in this stage — Most likely, both rushed into the relationship too quickly. Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment. When one starts noticing the flaws, one gets a choice to move foward, or back away. Being friends has a high percentage of working out, but nothing to stress over. Both may just need the time to get to know one another better.

【 STAGE 2 (4-6 months): The Bumpy Road 】
Things are going okay now. The relationship is calm and settled; both are still mostly happy. Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there, nothing huge. Start to notice some of each other’s flaws and aspects of their personalities not seen before, but still truly care for one another.
*If your relationship ended in this stage — You truly cared about this person. You had the energy to fight for this person, yet you feel as if something was lacking, something was missing. It doesn’t feel right, one isn’t happy. When one isn’t happy, one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness. Being friends is still a possibility.

【 STAGE 3 (7-12 months): The Rocky Mountain 】
You start to realize who your partner really is. A few more arguments may occur. Problems with jealously, overprotectiveness may arise. Other people may come in the picture. The “in love” moments start to decrease, but you feel as if you’ve “fallen in love.” You tend to have this energy inside to strive and “make it work,” and you feel more comfortable being around this person, feeling more of yourself.
*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel as if you’re hurt, depending on the circumstances. You were so sure that that person was “The One.” You were so SURE that he/she was different. But like a cancer, a problem that may have happened, a small issue, grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people. You still miss this person from time to time. You still remember the memories. Being friends may be difficult right away, but over time, you slowly mature up, and learn the reality of it.

【 STAGE 4 (1 year or more): The Long Road 】
1, 2, 3, 4, 5 years, huh? This person truly means something to you. You are “in love” with this person. He/she made a difference in your life. No one else knows you more than this person. You guys have been through the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still strive to make it last.
*If your relationship ends in this stage — You feel heartbroken; it’s tough. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, you miss him/her, you try to move on, you try meeting new people, but seems like nothing works. For whatever reason the split occured, it must’ve been something important, or something must have been so wrong that it took over. Being “just friends” is impossible, because if you tried to be friends, you wouldn’t be able to think of them in any other way besides the one you once “loved” .. .. ♥

如果，你在乎我...

如果，你在乎我..
可不可以让我知道
不要总是让我找你
那会让我感觉
你根本就不在意我
如果，你在乎我..
就不要总是让我孤单一个人
我真的很讨厌寂寞
如果，你在乎我..
记得多关心我关心我
我喜欢你问我今天做了什麼
而不是自己一个劲地告诉你
我今天怎麼了
如果，你在乎我..
在我情绪低落
心情鬱闷的时候
要多讲话逗逗我
不要一直的沉默
其实.. ..
只要你一句话
我就会很开心了
如果，你在乎我..
在我生你气的时候
絶对不可以想著我在生气
就不理会我
这样.. ..
我会很伤心
也会更生气
其实、我只是想你哄哄我
如果，你在乎我..
不要总是回我
呵呵、哦 这类的话语
就算你不想说话
也要多打几个字
不要让我感觉你是在敷衍我
如果，你在乎我..
不要让我在需要你的时候
却找不到你、那样的我很无助
如果，你在乎我..
要记住我们在一起发生的事情
要记住我的喜好
如果，你在乎我..
不管是好是坏的事情
我都想你可以告诉我
让我分享你的快乐
分担你的忧愁
如果，你在乎我..
你会想办法、让我每天都开开心心的吧?
如果，我在乎你，我也可以做到.. .. ♥

Relationship Stages.

Relationship Stages

Meaningful and educated clips. Special thanks to Wang Fu Production. It really got me thinking. =)

Guiltiness

 

除了对不起，我不知道该说什么了..

I have to cut down my emotions (already in progress), I shouldn’t show so much emotional to my friends around me. Thanks to mei and sai, and most importantly my dearest close friend, Peng Gor aka EJ.

Not to mention nag about anything just nag for awhile then just move on to another topic, don’t drag too long. Have to always remind myself, to be considerate and change my current image in my friends.

However, my guiltiness inside me is killing me. I have to go into audi and pretend everything is alright. Can’t afford to lost the friends around me, so no more emo for me. I swear! Decision has been made, actions need to be carried out.

Peng gor, I would like to express how sorry I am towards you, I say those to everyone we both is my fault but I didn’t know what to do when you treated me coldly it sucks to be treated that way. I want to see if they can help me on this issue therefore I try each and everyone of them whom we know. Despite the fact I have a reason for this, I know I shouldn’t and I’m wrong. You are right to be mad at me. I deeply apologize. :(

I will change, I really will try harder to change. >.<

T_T

Le Paris Here I Come! :)

Marina Bay Sands?  Poofed. Gone like a wind, not going anymore… =(

France? Yes please. Ticket has been booked and taken, date has been confirmed and this means Le Paris Here I come ! However, it cost me around 6k T_T

Nevertheless, I have to go on this trip no matter how, I might still very young but my friends around me are not able to go with me on this =/

Lately, everything is weird, people around me, things that is happening, it’s all weird, even at my work place. On work issue, I tell myself, no matter what changes I felt, as long as I do my part well, that’s all, just so simple. Can’t afford to lose my job and I know I wont! =)

P.S: Some may think eating alone is carefree and worriless, it is true but it can be very lonely too sometimes. =/

God please bless me on everything.

Recently, I feel the changes in my good friend peng gor. We’ve been so close for so many years, we can on phone for 1 hour plus and laugh non stop, but for the past few weeks I feel difference in him, don’t ask me what I just feel the difference on him. Confronted him and he say he might be changed but want me to know that it’s not because of me or he dislikes me or he hates me. IT’s not. He convinced me that everything is alright and ask me don’t worry. I understand that people changes in time, maybe I just need to learn to adapt the changes and adjust myself to the changes around me. =/

Bought myself a Dior Liquid Foundation last week.

This bottle of foundation cost me RM120 (Thanks to Carol Sis’s voucher discounted RM20.) =)

 

The Hunger Games

Watched “The Hunger Games”. Don’t really like this movie much, it’s too cruel for me, the point is, why not just name it “The Hunting Each Other Game”, at least it sounds more honest to me. In this movie, there are total of 12 District in that country. Each of the District will have 1 chosen team which consist of 1 boy and 1 girl to represent their district. The last survivor in this game will be the winner. Which also mean “Kill other people first if you don’t want to get killed.” In conclusion, I don’t like this movie, BUT…it’s fun enjoying movies with my siblings. :)
Mr. Lam then suggest we go Sushi King. We had our lunch and then I went to renew the AEON Member Card, paid around RM24 for 3 years. I’m going say, they should create more counters for renewal! We need to press number from the que-ing machine and wait for the numbers. I took the number before our lunch at 3pm. Guess what? When I’m done with my lunch I decide to go upstairs and check if the number is passed. Went up I still need to wait for 5 numbers and its already near to 4! =_= scary. 
However~

Looking forward so much to my Marina Bay Sand and France ! *.*

Carol Sis’s Europe Trip @ 2012

My eldest sis just came back from her Europe Trip last night. Let the photo do thy talking. =p

The first brand who comes out with the idea of chocolate wafer. It’s the first in the world. =)

Original Neapolitaner

me myself & my… LITTLE BITES :P

Earliest 2012 Birthday present FROM…..CAROL Sis! Love Ya! Hehe

Famous Handcraft Music Box from VIENNA! :P

ZOOM In! @_@

Vienna Tea with Mozart Face

Treble Clef…Do a Deer, a Female Deer~ :P

THE END

Truth ?

Am I being sensitive or you’re actually hiding the truth from me?

At some point, I hope the reason of you doing so is to protect me, but I rather you tell me the truth. Not too sure if what he said is right, when I confront you, you told me you didn’t know a thing about it. I guess there is nothing I could do however it hurts me cause we were so close.

A lot to digest in just a night, it’s really so hard to please everyone. No matter how I wanted to defend and explain for myself, I just don’t seem to get a chance to do so. Even for something I didn’t do but being accused of doing so, I don’t get a chance to even explain about it, what’s fair about that? Even if I did something wrong please at least let me know what is the charges? But it’s exactly like I have been sentenced to death before even getting a chance to do self-explanation. Sigh.

A lot of things going in my mind, but I guess no matter how long I dwell into the things I don’t have answers, I still won’t get any answer I want by overthinking about it. So just let things goes.

 

Trips! Yay ^.^

Marina Bays~~~~ 22-23 April !!

Gonna stay in the uniquely newly built hotel in SG! AWESOME!

UK Trip~~~ 10th-18th July!!

Gonna stop by Dubai for 2 days~~ Follow by Newcastle and most ultimately, FRANCE! OMG!~! I cannot miss it! I gonna save hard for this trip! OMG OMG OMG ><

OMG can’t wait for this two trips~ I love to travel as usual!. Sight Seeing!

I’m gonna make a habit to write a post everyday!

Watched P.S. I Love You, can really feel how Gerry loves Holly, how he planned the whole thing and even made her mom promise to do things he asked for after his death~! So heartfelt and touching, imagining if I'm Holly I’ll surely be amazed by a guy like him too.

 

New bed room

Falling in love with my new bedroom... Peaceful and relaxing :)

Snow Flakes

Milk chocolate snow flake is back in town! Hee

Girls Date Out!

Fetched Iris sis from her work place after work ends at 6 and drop myself off in Parkson to meet up with Suki.

Booked Kbox for singing session. Called Suki once I reach Parkson. Meet up her in front of Kbox and we went in to sing. It’s been a very long time since our last date to sing. Sing until 8 and we went down to Sushi King for dinner. We shared a set and chit chat.

After dinner we decide to watch “This Means War” and we go GSC and buy tickets. Its been a very long time since I did this all in one day time. Every time just movie or just singing session. I had a great night ! =)

Talking about “This Means War”, I really love this movie. I laugh from starting till the end of this movie. ! 9/10! =D

I love Tuck! =p Safe and Sweet!  FDR is charming too but a little bit too playful for me. Suki prefer on FDR of course and me? Tuck ! :P

忘了

我心要换你的 真的不行那么 只得放了.. 放了...忘了...

iPhone 4S =p

Finally, on this wonderful day, my long wait shows its worthiness, after suffering from half a month (19 days) of waiting, my precious phone is finally here!

My dearest – iPhone 4S! Hehe =p

 

Got my precious phone for RM1,100 upon sign up contract for 2 years. Got sponsored half by my dad as my 24th birthday present. Hehe Thanks Dad ! Love Ya!

The best birthday present I received on my 24th birthday! Hehehe *grateful*

2 Years and 3 Months

It’s already 2 years and 3 months since I know Ivan and we became best friend, I can still remember the exact date we know each other in Starbucks 2 years ago on 22nd August 2009. 2 years ago we had our dinner at Denis Jazz Bistro, 2 years later which is today we are still dining in Denis Jazz Bistro but the feeling is totally different. We became more matured and I can feel our friendship has grown stronger.

For the past 2 years, we’ve been through a lot together both sad times and happy times. Of course, the happy times are more than sad times =)

I will never forget how we met and became friends, exchange fb and msn on the first day we know each other until you told me on the phone that day that *Joey, you are really my real best friend* I feel so touched when you told me so and at the same time I feel grateful to have known you =)

2 years ago @ 28.10.2009

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2 years later @ 22.11.2011

I wanted to say, Ivan, you are truly my real best friend too =)

and we will always be best friends, because true best friends are meant for life =)

接受

当事情演变成现在的情况，我想，我该庆幸我们之间已经没什么好说的了

从一开始，所有的都只是一场梦，是你给了我一场梦，但同样也是你让我从梦中醒来

早就该预料到这天会来的，分别只是在于迟或早而已

没错，刚醒来的时候，非常挣扎，拼了命想要睡回去，但是，梦醒了，就是醒了，很多事情，在梦醒的那一刻，都不能重来了

挣扎了一段时间，就算心有不甘，也无可奈何，只好接受

然而，接受梦醒了的这个事实，突然发现，接受比挣扎来的轻松。

有些事情，不能接受，只能选择走开，或许走开一段日子，会对彼此都好过，勉强抓着一段错误的感情，伤到他也伤害到自己，慢慢的明白到，放开他，我也放过我自己。

他不应该，让我感受到我原以为不属于我的喜悦....

我并没有怪他，我反而要谢谢他，因为他，我更加了解我自己，让我可以变成一个更好的人。

Claire 跟我说，放开他，如果他会回来，他是你的，如果他不回来，那有更好的人在你的未来等着你 哈哈

这点，我是很相信的 哈哈哈

我跟他之间也算是告一段落了

我们还会是很好的朋友吧 哈哈

Things will be better in time ^.^

Au Revoir~ Mon Cher Chester Li

安静

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我没有这种天分 包容你也接受她

我会学者放弃你 是因为我太爱你

In the end.

No matter how much I cry, it still doesn’t change the fact of the current situation I’m facing. You said, it’s just a game, and I shouldn’t take it too seriously. Be it just a game like you said, I put in my real feelings, those feelings I have for you were not fake.

That night when you told me why you can’t accept me, you have no idea how pain my heart is at that very moment. Every single word that night stabs my heart like throwing millions  of darts on a dart board. I never knew I was so  difficult for you to handle, and I’m really sorry for sharing our things with 2 of my close friends. I thought to get better advice from them based on our situation, therefore I told them. But  it is because I don’t want to lose you.

I know how mad I made you that night, perhaps it’s good to make things clear for us. I make your life bad, I make you feel tie up and hard to breathe. For that, I’m really deeply sorry. End of that night, you offers me to be your closest mei. I refused to be, I don’t want to be your mei. We choose to be close friends. Very close friends you said.

When I thought everything is going to be alright, until that night, when you came online, I saw your ring is gone. You asked me in pm, will I be very angry if you couple her. I said I might quit. I knew you were pissed when I said that, because it makes you feel like you have no freedom in doing things you wanted. You love your freedoms and space. You came into the game is to relax and play with friends. But every time I online, I will surely go finds you which makes you feel I’m sticky, I thought I was pei-ing you. For that. I’m deeply sorry too.

To be honest, it hurts me badly when you coupled someone who is close to me, someone who I used to tell her about how much I like you and things related to you. I know I have no rights to blame anyone on this issue, but still it hurts badly inside my heart.

Feelings won’t just fade away like nothing, I need time for me to move on. Now that you have her as your couple, I won’t have to worry if you have no one to accompany you anymore.

This is what I keep telling myself. I know it will. :)

Lastly, thanks for all the memories you gave me for the past 3 months. I appreciate it a lot and will keep them with me carefully. Thanks to you, I’ll be a better couple in the future.

My wish.

I wish to cared by you even though I know it’s not right.

I wish you knew how much I wanted you to be happy.

I wish you could see how much you mean to me.

I wish I could make you smile, even just for awhile.

I wish I could be the girl who always listen to you, be there for you, supports you, cheer u up when you’re sad, calm you down when you’re mad, chill you down when you are pekcek or dulan, mostly importantly, someone who can make you happy and forgot all the fan things.

Music Means...

30 Seconds to Mars taught me to speak whats on my mind

Greenday taught me that government's gonna fail someday.

Bruno Mars taught me to do anything for that one person I love

Eminem taught me that life is hard but you can make it through

Travis taught me to be generous

Taylor Swift taught me not every girl is going to treat me right

The script taught me to move on

Michael Jackson taught me to always love the people around me

Music taught me to live

Saw this on youtube and feel so meaningful. :)